Our comfort zone is the place where things feel familiar to us, where we feel we have enough of what makes us happy.
It’s where we feel we know what we are doing, so we feel in control, we don’t experience too much stress and anxiety and it’s where life feels pretty good.
When you put it like that, it all sounds very positive doesn’t it?
After all, we are creatures of comfort who are hard wired to avoid risks. We like to know what’s coming next so we can plan ahead to avoid any risky business.
I don’t want to burst your lovely, comfortable bubble but have a think – do you think you are getting a bit too comfy?
Are you holding yourself back because you are wary of taking even the smallest risk?
Could you challenge yourself a bit more?
Are you afraid of pushing yourself a bit further?
Are you frightened of trying new things, in case they don’t work out how you would like?
When we are slightly uncomfortable, whether by choice or through a decision outside of our control, we are able to push ourselves to achieve goals that we could never previously dream were possible.
A couple of weeks ago, I was speaking at a Wellness Event. It was my first ‘proper’ speaking engagement and I was totally out of my comfort zone.
Previously, I had been asked to speak at a few events and knew I ‘should’ say Yes to the new experiences, so that’s exactly what I did.
However, I wasn’t then prepared for the days that followed, when I went into total panic mode. All the feelings of not being good enough, what on earth am I going to say, why would anybody want to hear it, all the classic imposter syndrome worries.
For various reasons, the events were cancelled and I cannot tell you the relief that I felt, when I knew that I was no longer going to have to speak.
I had to have a word with myself, I needed to get over this because I was missing out on a chance to promote my business, to meet new people and also to see if I could actually be any good at this speaking lark.
So, when I said Yes this time, there were a few butterflies I must admit, but I had a different mindset.
I started to think what’s the worse that can happen? Maybe people won’t listen, maybe they will even get up and walk out. But then again, maybe they won’t. Maybe they will enjoy it, maybe they will actually clap.
I got myself prepared and on the day I walked into the event space, actually feeling pretty relaxed. When I walked to the front of the room to speak, the words came out and within 5 minutes, to my sheer disbelief, I was actually enjoying myself.
As a result, I have a booking for a workshop in three weeks time, I have lunch this week with a fellow speaker that I had a great connection with and I met some lovely people.
So, you see taking even the smallest risk is what helps us grow. If you only stick to what you know and keep to your same routine, how will you know what you could have achieved?
We are all so much more capable than we could ever believe. But to find out how capable, you will have to be prepared to leave your comfort zone.
What would you do, if you weren’t afraid to take a risk?
If I can help you to tackle a new challenge or if you would like some support in other areas of your life, please get in touch.
Enjoy this gorgeous weather and take care of yourself,