Before we get into the nitty gritty; I’d like to begin with how I’m defining ‘success’.
Personally, I’m not talking about defining success with monetary value. I’m not the sort of coach who will ‘Tony Robbins-you’ into creating a 6 figure business, that two years down the line will burn you out.
I apologise for using ‘Tony Robbins’ as a verb – for me it just really sums up that loud, one-size-fits-all approach. Lots of people love that style and I absolutely respect that, but it doesn’t sit well with me at all.
My role as your coach is to help you understand what you truly want, and to support you in setting your own goals. So when I’m talking about success, I’m talking about you finding your most authentic path in life.
Basically, I want you to just do you.
So these tips I have to help you build your own strategic approach to whatever your next goal is, really focus on getting to the core of what you want, when you push all the noise of the world aside.
The problem with so many of our goals is that they are often tinged with the opinions or wishes of others and sometimes we have carried those opinions round from an early age. Maybe we are following a path that our family wanted for us, or minimising our hearts desire to not go ‘too far’ (how many of you can hear those words right now, I know I can).
So, these goals need to be really looked at to spot what’s ours and what isn’t.
With that said, let’s talk tactics.
Tip #1 – The Big Why
Do you remember your core values? They are perhaps not something we think about consciously every day, but they do steer our unconscious decisions from moment to moment.
(By the way, if you aren’t sure what your values are, get in touch and I will email you a values list so that you can work out what is relevant to you)
When you are thinking about a new goal, begin by checking in with the core of who you are and what you are about.
What’s your big WHY in life? And is this goal aligned with it?
It’s a good idea to take every goal back to your WHY – if things don’t sit well with that or make you feel uncomfortable in any way, then either you need to explore further or maybe the goal is not for you.
Tip #2 – Get clear on what you DON’T want
When we are planning out how to fit in a big goal with the rest of our lives, it’s tempting to sacrifice in other areas of our lives to make things work.
Getting clear on what you don’t want in your daily life, such as working 60 hours a week for example, is just as important as knowing what you do want.
Looking at both ends of the spectrum gives you great perspective, and it might also give you the space to find compromises or alternatives.
Tip #3 – The where, when, who, what stuff…
All the practical bits need to be included too – and it’s funny how often these bits can get overlooked in the excitement of making a goal come true.
I like the practical part to come after Tips 1 & 2 so that the key elements of what you really want don’t get clouded by logistics and other things – if you really want something and it’s right for your life you can work it out.
Find the WHY of your aim first – then bend the logistics to fit your ideal outcome.
I hope that helps you to create your own success strategy. I know real life is not always as easy as 1, 2, 3 but often things are not as hard or as unattainable as you might think they are.
If you need help to come up with your why, where, when, who, what stuff then get in touch with me for a free telephone consultation – let’s talk about your tactics.