How to make a New Year’s Resolution stick – once and for all!

New Year’s Eve is here again and I wonder, are you going to be making a New Year’s Resolution?

Maybe you made a Resolution before or perhaps you set yourself another kind of goal?  And then maybe you didn’t stick to it and if so, maybe that made you feel a bit guilty? If so, you are not alone.

Actually, the majority of resolutions are not fulfilled, and it’s really just to do with human nature. Typically we over commit, under prepare, and set ourselves up to fail. Then we feel bad, and our habits become even worse – until this time next year, when the cycle begins again.

But don’t worry, because it doesn’t have to be like that.

By using these three simple tips, you can ensure that you stick to your resolutions and goals and honestly, they are not hard to follow.

So what can you do?

Simple, small steps

First of all, we have a terrible habit of thinking if a plan doesn’t work, we need to make it “better”. And what does better look like? It’s usually more complex and elaborate, and even harder to stick to than the original plan.

In all honesty, the best plans are the simplest ones. We need to get out of the mindset of believing that simple is bad.

What do you need to do to get to your goal and what are the little steps you can take on the way to get you there?

Take your goal and plot your small steps in reverse, starting from the date you want to hit the goal by, right back to today’s date. Write it all down so that you can see exactly what needs to happen at what stage and then you can also chart your progress.

I call the little steps bite-size chunks as it’s often easier to think of doing lots of little things rather than tackling one huge goal, head-on.

Get some positive cheerleaders

The people closest to us have a huge influence on how we see the world. And how we see the world is everything. Jim Rohn said ” You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

What this demonstrates is how having positive people cheering you on makes the goal seem more achievable, boosts your mood, and even inspires you to stay on track with your goal.

There is an easy way to check if this works – spend a day with only positive people; at the end of the day think about how the world looks and feels to you and I can guarantee that it will feel better.

Now repeat with negative people, and see the difference!

You probably now know who you would like to spend your time with and how they can help to make a difference to your view of the world.

Daily mindset boost

This last one is about working on your mindset, every day. And this is the life hack with goal setting that nobody talks about.

When it comes to making your New Year’s Resolution a reality, everybody talks about getting to that goal through sheer willpower alone. But the essential piece of the puzzle that is missing is the mindset that allows you to reach that goal, without it feeling like the biggest uphill slog in the world.

The reason that we all need to do a little something for our mindset each day is this. Our brains are wired to notice danger – this goes back to caveman times. We can spot 57 different things wrong in our day, but by nature, we pay very little attention to the things that go right.

Shifting our focus to notice the good things more takes daily practice. But when we do this and our mindset shifts to become more positive, it makes a world of difference to our mood and energy, in turn making the goal much more reachable.

 

So those are the three main things that you need to stay on track to reach your goals. Only you know whether your goal is achievable for you and sometimes you need to re-assess the goal to check if it is still what you want.

If you hit a roadblock and it holds you up a bit, don’t beat yourself up. Just go back to your list, work out where you need to start again, maybe you need to make some tweaks and get back on track.

It’s also important to celebrate your successes, no matter how small. If you don’t recognise what you have achieved, how will you know how well you are doing?

I hope this helps you with getting on track in 2018. I would love to hear about your goals, please leave me a comment in the box below.

Happy New Year everybody and I hope it’s your best year yet!

Toni x