Do you feel that a change is as good as a rest, or are you a creature of habit?
Many of us feel both, in confusingly equal measures. But then humans are wonderfully complicated creatures!
Autumn is the time of year when we can typically start to feel one extreme or the other. We are either in ‘harvest mode’, resting after a busy, successful summer, and feeling good about the festivities ahead. Or, we can feel bad about the shorter days, the colder weather, and the lack of daylight.
This year we are having a funny autumn too. We’ve just had a little weekend heatwave, and of course the fall out from recent hurricanes and storms have been disrupting lives all over the world.
So where are you right now? Is it harvest mode for you, or has this autumn felt more like a long, premature Halloween? And I mean in a ghoulish way – not in a free sweets and funny costumes kind of way…
If things are a bit dark and desolate for you, then let’s talk about finding your harvest. And I promise you, there is always something to harvest, or in other words, something to be grateful for. It’s often just a case of switching your focus.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that shifting your focus will solve all of your problems. But what it will do is improve your mental state. When your mental state gets a lift, this has a way of reflecting in the material world too. In other words, when you start seeing the good, you start creating more opportunity.
It can even feel a little bit magical, like your luck has changed. But honestly, it’s nothing of the sort. This is a simple little scientific fact. Neuroscientists call it ‘reticular activation’.
Basically, when you expect to see something, you will see more of it. Not because more of it is there. It’s just that your brain is primed to notice that thing you are thinking about over the hundreds of other things vying for your attention at any one time.
But we can absolutely use this to our advantage – so let’s do so right now…
Grab a notepad and write down a few things that you are really grateful for; things that make you happy and satisfied with life.
Important note – These should not be things that you think you ‘should’ be grateful for. An example that comes to mind is when you were a child and your mother told you to eat your greens because there were starving kids in the world, and you should be grateful etc…
This has to really resonate deeply with you. So think again; what do you have in your world that really makes your heart sing?
That, right there, is what you need to focus on! Think about these things every day. Write them in a journal, set a reminder on your phone – do whatever you need to get it done.
This will grow that feeling of ‘harvest mode’ and shift your attention from negative to positive. I know, it sounds so simplistic, but the best plans usually are. So give it a really good go for a few weeks – this is your homework!
When we are having a hard time, we can be so focused on a change as our solution. Sometimes we forget about the consistent things in our lives. Really, we need a bit of both. The surprising thing is, that when we shift our attention to the consistently good things that we are happy about, the changes start to emerge for us in a natural way. And the ones that we don’t try to force are usually the best ones.
So try it, see for yourself, and then come back and leave me a comment. I’d love to know how you get on!
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